Jun 28

Mindfulness and the Law

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Aug 6

Life works in 7 year cycles

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Life works in 7 year cycles and therefore it’s no wonder that when people approach their 40’s they start making significant shifts in their lives… Shifts in relationships, personality and spirituality. Understanding that these shifts may be part of someone’s 7 year cycle may help us understand why a person makes certain choices and decisions. Sometimes it’s part of a bigger picture and it’s NOT personal.

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Nov 17


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I will be presenting the HOW TO ACHIEVE A GOOD DIVORCE seminar on TUESDAY November 29, 2011. Topics include :

Understanding the difference between the emotional divorce and the legal divorce

Working with your lawyer and How to create a supportive professional network.

Separation is difficult , its  a transition..it’s about change and change is difficult. This workshop is designed to help people navigate the unchartered and murky waters of separation and divorce. It will give you guidance and objectivity and hopefully help you find your way to a healthier new beginning.

When people decide that the time to bring their marriage to an end has come, they may face numerous hurdles. From a bitter custody dispute to disagreements regarding the division of marital property, spousal support, or child support payments (For more information on this topic, visit conoscienti & ledbetter), divorce can be contentious for many reasons. Furthermore, these stressors can have an emotional impact on people that should not be overlooked. In fact, there is evidence to support that divorce can actually increase the likelihood of a motor vehicle accident, go to www.parkerscheer.com/car-accidents in the case of an accident.

The National Center for Biotechnology Information published a study which looked into the link between life events that are very stressful, such as divorce, and the likelihood of a motor vehicle collision. After analyzing data from thousands of participants, researchers were able to draw a link between divorce and car crashes and conclude that recently going through a divorce or separation increases one’s chances of being involved in a traffic collision. Other emotional challenges, such as one’s child moving out of the home, a partner becoming hospitalized, and even significant purchases were also shown to increase the likelihood of a car crash.

 Clearly, a link can be drawn between ending one’s marriage and a higher car accident risk. As a result, those who are in the process of divorcing their spouse or have recently split up should be especially vigilant when they are on the road. Sadly, a car crash can make life even more difficult for those who are already trying to move forward from a contentious or upsetting divorce.


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Aug 29

My interview with Phil Taylor, Goal Achievers Organisation

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Listen here to hear my interview with the amazing Phil Taylor of the internationally renowned Goal Achievers Organisation.

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Aug 29

My interview with Hugh Reilly from THATCHANNEL

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Watch my interview with Hugh Reilly from THATCHANNEL discussing Collaborative Law and the emotional divorce.

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Aug 29

My interview with Don McAvinchy of the Beyond Divorce Bootcamp

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Listen here to hear my interview with Don McAvinchy of the BEYOND DIVORCE BOOTCAMP discussing collaborative law and tips for how to get beyond divorce.

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Apr 25

Creating Your Family: An Educational Seminar on Exploring Family Building Options

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Where: Biagio Ristorante (55 King Street East, Toronto, 416.366.4040)

When: May 4th Exploring your Pathway to Parenthood

May 5th Alternative Family Building seminar

Cocktails begin at 6:00

Seated dinner and presentation at 6:30

Cost: $40 per person / $70 per couple includes cocktail & dinner

Presented by

Fertility Centers of Illinois (FCI) located in Chicago, Illinois, offers comprehensive medical and infertility services to patients seeking to build their families through egg donation, sperm donation and/or surrogacy. Patients experience superior medical care and excellent success rates, with world-renowned fertility doctors and scientists. FCI has 2 amazing IVF laboratories to provide superior science including FCI RN IVF Laboratory and aParent IVF Laboratory. Together, optimal fertility care includes options for blastocyst transfer, elective single embryo transfer, and Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis.

Lotus Blossom Consulting (LBC) serves as patient advocate to guide patients through egg donation and surrogacy arrangements. Through exponentially expanded pools of available egg donors and surrogates LBC matches clients from all over the world in shortened time frame. LBC also pulls together teams of unbiased professionals, including attorneys, insurance agents, financial and estate planners to compliment the surrogacy arrangement. FCI and LBC have joined forces to promote options and opportunities for family building. This strategic alliance enables the intended parent(s) to streamline all the ancillary components of family building under one umbrella, helping you to successfully achieve your pathway to parenthood.


Angeline Beltsos, M.D. is double board-certified in OB/GYN (Loyola University) and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (Washington University). Dr. Beltsos is Medical Director and one of the Managing Partners of Fertility Centers of Illinois (FCI).

Mindy Berkson, B.A. is Founder of Lotus Blossom Consulting. Mindy’s mission is to arm patients with resources to make the best choices for surrogacy arrangements. As an advocate, Mindy helps navigate all the elements involved in third party reproduction.

Jan Silverman co-founded the first Canadian infertility support network, Infertility Facts & Feelings. She established the Infertility Support and Education Program at Women’s College Hospital and continues to counsel on infertility and reproductive issues.

Colleen Coughlin, MS is the Embryology Laboratory Director of aParent IVF, which works exclusively with FCI. She is nationally well recognized within the Embryology community. aParent IVF has received intensive training at several successful IVF laboratories in the United States.

ď‚· Explore motivations for egg donation and surrogacy abroad

ď‚· Provide high success rates for pregnancy and live birth at FCI

 Explore easy online application social security office in provo

ď‚· Coordinate diagnostic and medical IVF procedures between your Toronto fertility center and FCI

ď‚· Organize the timing, coordination and facilitation of your treatment cycle

ď‚· Provide opportunities for individuals and couples to explore egg donation and surrogacy

ď‚· Consider all components necessary to accomplish the journey

 Identify surrogates with like-minded attitudes for pregnancy and egg donors who meet patient’s specific criteria

ď‚· Understand the legal environments and how selection of candidates from various states will dictate parentage

ď‚· Understand the differences in health care systems

ď‚· Garner various insurance options to mitigate financial exposure

ď‚· Implement preparation for immigration, passport, birth certificate acquisition, social security relinquishment and or dual citizenship

ď‚· Offer readily available Attain Financing Program through FCI


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Mar 11

You have to be POSITIVE!

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During the emotionally draining journey of separation and divorce, thinking positive can often seem easier said than done, but it really does help…because what you believe is usually what you create.

For instance, if you believe…


  • This separation is stretching my capacity for patience and understanding
  • This separation is just too stressful
  • This separation is just too draining
  • This separation is just too difficult
  • My spouse is deliberately sabatoging the negotiating
  • My spouse just wants me to suffer and be miserable
    Then guess what? It will be! All of the above mentioned situations can and will be true

    But what if you try a difference approach… what if you start believing with all your heart and soul and imagine that ….


  • This separation requires patience, but the more quiet time I take to nurture myself, even if it’s 5 minutes a day, the more patience I seem to have
  •  There is a lesson here and I need to learn from it
  • This separation is stressful, but I am learning to cope with my stress every day and I can conquer it
  • As I become more calm so I can respond to the separation rather than react to it
  • I am the boss of me and I can choose who I want to be and how I want to behave
  • I am a role model for  my children
  • I am a strong, decent and evolved human being
    Remember, the story you tell will become your reality.  If you believe that your separation is just too stressful and requires an impossible amount of patience and that there is just too much venom in the given situation, then you will attract a stressful, toxic situation requiring more patience than you can muster.

Imagine your separation being a smooth transition into a new chapter of your life.

Imagine your children having two loving parents living in two seperate homes

Imagine your life being complete where you can move forward and not be stuck in the past

We have a review mirror in our car so that we can check back on  occasion so see what we have left behind  but its the huge view in front of us that we have to focus on if we want to get there safely. 

Constantly dwelling on and in the past does not move you forward…..so imagine what you want your new life to look like and focus on that. 

You have the choice to create your own reality, imagine what you want it to look like, believe it will look like that and you would have created your own destiny.

 So what is a better feeling thought you can tell yourself today?


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Feb 22

Some Inspiring words…..

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There are no age limits on when you can transform your life.
Change is possible at any time.
It is essential if you want to grow.

You have control over your life.
Success or failure is up to you.
You control how lucky you are.
You create your wealth with your effort.

The doubts you’ll experience along the way are part of life.
Make a plan to attain your success and stick to it.
Your life is a marathon, not a short sprint.
Accept total responsibility for your actions
and remove “QUIT” from your vocabulary.

Decide you want success and it can be yours.
Success is always your choice.

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Feb 16

How to keep our kids happy after divorce

I read this on a blog by Patrick McMillan and thought hmmmm, wouldnt it be nice if all seperated parents thought like this, please read and enjoy.


My marriage ended just over 2 years ago when our boys were 10 and 7 years old and I was living the “nightmare scenario” I had hoped would never happen to me, and therein lay the first big issue.  This was always in the back of my mind; “what would happen if we get divorced with kids?”  When I first started getting the feeling that our divorce was imminent, I recall repeating to myself “I just want my boys and I to be happy” and to be perfectly honest, at that time their mother’s happiness was not one of my concerns, but I came to learn that her happiness does matter and means everything to our children.  And I have always known what I want most for my children.  I want for them to BE HAPPY.

Okay, so if this is truly what I want and believe, I must do what is necessary to MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Set Your Priorities!

In order for me to be able to make my kid’s mom’s happiness important to me there were a few things I needed to do, and these were some of the most beneficial life changing lesson’s I have ever learned.  But most importantly, by implementing the following practices into my life I could see the affect on my kids was exactly what I wished for…they are happy!

  • Ask for what you WANT! – There is scientific evidence that the concept of the self-fulfilling prophecy effect is real.  You will manifest into your experience that which you focus repeated thought and emotion on.  So I repeat to myself over and over “I will be the best father and ex-husband I can be and I will stop at nothing to make it happen.”
  • Learn to forgive – Know you are forgiving for yourself and your kids.  Practicing forgiveness will not only reap huge benefits to you, but you will be modeling an ability that your children will inherit and benefit from forever.
  • BELIEVE THIS! – The very best thing I can do to ensure my children’s happiness after divorce is to LOVE THEIR MOTHER and wish nothing but the very best for her!  I’m not saying to be “in-love” but rather love her for her contribution to your life.

This last step as you can imagine, is the one I get the most reaction to, especially from men who are allowing themselves to make the ending of their marriage to be a bad experience, but for their children this is THE most important step.

Regardless of the mountain of judgments and criticisms I could make up about my kid’s mom, I can choose to be forgiving and grateful to her for carrying and giving birth to my children, and for being their mom.  This is not difficult when all I need to do is look at my kids.  What she went through both physically and emotionally giving birth to my children I will never comprehend and I can’t help but be thankful to her forever!  When I intentionally think this way the judgments and criticisms disappear.

It is simply a choice to do what it takes to create an environment for our kids that allows them flourish and be happy, and they are so worth our stepping up and letting go of our macho ego and male pride.  I put my children’s happiness at the top of my priority list and would trade my life to ensure it for them.  To forgive and love their mother requires only a small effort comparatively, but returns massive rewards to all of us that will last a lifetime.

It is okay for a dad to teach his children to be compassionate, loving, grateful and forgiving by modeling it for them and doing so multiplies exponentially his children’s chances of leading an amazingly joyful and exciting life!

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