Jan 20

I SHOULD HAVE….

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I SHOULD HAVE…..

On Wednesday, I received a beautiful email from a special human being. I read it, I enjoyed it and I even forwarded it on to a couple of people who I thought might appreciate it but I never thanked the person who sent it to me…..Oh I meant to, but I thought I would get around to it later.

That evening I checked out my Facebook Account and that same special human being had taken the time to make a beautiful comment on my Home page. Her comment gave me joy, pleasure and made me feel so special. I meant to thank her for taking the time out of her day to think of me and validate me and make me feel good….but I would get round to it later.

That night or early the next morning, that special soul who had touched me so gently twice in one day, passed away in her sleep. Just hours before, I had had the opportunity to acknowledge her beautiful spirit, to thank her for making me feel so special and I let that opportunity silently slip away with her in the night. I never got to tell her how her two small acts of kindness had given me such joy. I should have…..but I didn’t.

That “I should have” thought has been sitting with me for a few hours now and it took me back to just last month when we bundled our family into the car and drove 12 hours in a snow storm to attend a family celebration.  Dawn (the name of this remarkable person) and her husband were celebrating their son’s bar mitzvah and they wanted as many friends and family to be with them to join and share in this joyous occasion. People from all over the world came together to help celebrate this auspicious day.  Those warm memories and happy times made me think to myself…”Man, I am so glad I did”.

 It’s those “I am so glad I did” thoughts that warm our heart, puff out our chest and put that pep in our step.

“I am so glad I did” doesn’t have to be a 12 hour drive in a snow storm, it can be that kiss on your 18 year olds head on your way to bed or putting that extra Tootsie Roll in your son’s lunch bag. It can be an email to a friend saying “hey, want to go for coffee” or an “I love you” to your spouse or partner as you pass him that dish to dry.

The only thing in life we ever regret are our regrets, the “I should haves” or “why didn’t I’s?”

We have to remember that it’s the little things in life that accumulate into the big things just like a million small molecules make up a heavenly body. If every day we had a whole bunch of “I am so glad I did” what an impact it would have on you, the people around you, the world, the universe.

Let’s remember to inspire, motivate, encourage and support someone every day by doing one small act of kindness, one sweet word, an encouraging thought or prayer. The action may be small but the magnitude immense.

Today, my friend, I wish you a whole bunch of “I am so glad I did”.

For those reading this today, always remember …You are powerful, you are important and you are an inspiration.

 

 

Dedicated in loving memory of Dawn Levin, you made the world a sweeter more compassionate place. Your spirit will be missed but you will live on with us forever.

 

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Jan 14

Nicolle discusses divorce on the radio in South Africa

Talking about Collaborative Law never stops…….even when on vacation!

http://www.monitoringsa.com/MSAWebsites/Audio%20Files/Audio_Video.asp?ID=4892&PID=967

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Nov 28

NKP Law on the radio

Ending a relationship is difficult, in fact one of the most difficult experiences one may ever have to face. Nicolle Kopping-Pavars was recently interviewed on Ask the Expert – Talk Radio CFRB where she discussed an alternative, more cost effective holistic approach to separation and divorce.

Listen here to find out more.

http://www.newstalk1010.com/Episodes.aspx?PID=1827

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Jun 16

Lesson learnt!

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Here is your Friday story,

A Lesson Learnt From My Six Year Old

On Saturday mornings, my family and I stay in bed just a little bit longer. My two boys crawl into bed with my husband and I and we usually watch music videos all together cuddled up in bed.

A song came on called “If this was your last day” which I found intriguing and thought it posed an interesting question too, so I turned to my husband and asked him what he would do if it was his last day.

He thought for a while and then said that he would probably lie in bed all day just as we were doing right now, surrounded by all his favorite people, just savoring the time together.

I turned to my eight year old and asked him what he would do and he said that he would go to Canada’s Wonderland and go on all the rides.

I then focused my attention on my six year old and posed the same question. He looked at me intently and asked “Is this my last day to live?”, I said “yup”.

He then answered the question quite matter of factly and said “I would go to the hospital”.

Of course my husband and I thought his answer was genuinely funny, smart and pure (we are biased of course). However, I have been thinking about it for a few days now and I realize that my six year old has it all figured out.

He naturally thinks outside of the box, he does not accept a situation and assume a scenario just because it is posed to him.

In his mind, there was no reason why it should be his last day and he was going to find a way to ensure that it was not.

In a flash of a second, he realized that he has the capacity to ensure that it wouldn’t be his last day and not only that, but he was going to take the requisite responsibility and the necessary action to ensure that it wasn’t.

My son taught me that if you want to live then find a way to do it, don’t give up, don’t settle and don’t just accept things for what they seem to be.

Don’t assume and accept a situation just because it is presented to you as such. Rather make that situation your own, take responsibility for it and then decide to change it, my six year old did.

Now I know that I am his mother, but is this not the smartest six year old kid in the entire world?

Nicolle Kopping-Pavars

(Published in Insight of The Day )

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Nov 24

The Instinct Gurus

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THE INSTINCT GURUS

 

Join us for a light hearted and inspirational evening empowering you to recognize and successfully trust your instincts.

 

Julian Liknaitzky B.A. (Psych) LL.B.   H.dip(Tax) Wits

Divorce & Life coach

 

Nicolle Kopping –Pavars BA LL.B

 Collaborative Lawyer and Family Law Mediator

 

Opening by Isolina Varano, BSW, MSW, RSW, (ADR)

 Conflict Resolution Manager, TCDSB, Mediator, Parenting Coordinator

 

 Date:                   Thursday December 4th 2008        

                  

Time:                   6:30 p.m

 

Venue:                  HSBC Building

                              3601 Highway 7, (Hwy 7 and Warden)

                              Suite 400, Markham, On

                              L3R OM3

 

Cost:                    $10.00 per person

 

RSVP by 2 December to: crystalball2008@hotmail.com

 

Biographies:

 

Julian majored in Psychology in South Africa, specializing in Family Therapy and Individual counseling. He also completed his Law degree and Higher Diploma in Tax. Julian works as a divorce and life coach reviewing the options available to clients before, during and after relationship breakups and divorce. www.divorcecoaching.ca

 

Nicolle is a Family Law mediator and lawyer in good standing in both South Africa and Canada. Nicolle is committed to assisting separating couples find options that maintain their self respect, self esteem and dignity while resolving issues arising from a separation without going to court. www.nkplaw.ca

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Nov 24

October Surrogacy Network Evening

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WOW!! WHAT A SUCCESS -That is all I can say about our first network evening. laugh.gif
We had couples from Newmarket to Mississauga and in between. It was truly an emotional experience for me to meet with such strong and special people. Everyone clicked so quickly, sharing their stories and where they were on their fertility journey. Some participants were even going to the same doctors and shared contacts and information. This is what sharing and networking is all about, but most important, sharing with PEOPLE who COMPLETELY understand where you are, they have walked and are still walking a mile in your shoes. A date has been set for our next meeting on Tuesday November 25, 2008. We will have a guest speaker come in to speak to us and then we will have our usual mingle and chat. I will keep you updated as to the topic and guest speaker SO mark your calendars and I look forward to seeing you there. Anyone who has any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me!

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